I just finished book three of the Halfling Saga and I’m about to start the fourth book, and I went down the rabbit hole of reading reviews. A lot of people are upset about the direction of the male lead, saying that in the last book he basically becomes a “lap dog” for the main character and loses his edge.

And TBH… I’m confused by that criticism.
To me, Riven/Killian never felt like a traditional shadow daddy character in the first place. Yes, he’s powerful and mysterious at times, but once you really get to know him he feels much more like a soft but strong type of character. Loyal, protective, a little emotionally vulnerable, and very centered around the main character.
So seeing people complain that he isn’t dominating the story or acting like the classic morally gray alpha male is interesting to me. I feel like some readers expected one archetype and got another.
And i got me to thinking about my own reading preferences.
I actually like two very different types of male leads:
Soft & steady – the loyal, emotionally grounded characters who support the heroine and let her shine. They’re strong but not performative about it.
Think:
Shadow daddies – the dark, morally gray, intimidating characters who carry power and danger with them.
Think:
Xaden from Fourth Wing
Caz from Vicious Bonds
Both can be great, but I don’t necessarily think every fantasy series needs the second one.
Now I’m curious where everyone else falls.
When you’re reading fantasy or romantasy, which type of male character do you prefer?
The soft and steady ones…
or the shadow daddies?